Taming Tension
"So what is challenging for you?"
"ummm....."
I call this "the big blank." It shows up for so many mom's when asked to pinpoint what's going on for them. In general, we know things are hard. But to pinpoint just what is going on? BIG BLANK.
We know there is a big tangled mess of tension hanging over us. We know it is bothersome. But life is too busy to stop and pause. To start to unfurl the single elements of what is stressing us out.
So here is a challenge, should you choose to accept it.
Start tracking your tension. This is meant to be a quick check in for you to complete in 5 minutes before bed. What were your hopes for the day? What aspects of the day were hard? What parts were great?
This is NOT meant to be a space where we wallow in self-pity because of the things we didn’t get done, or should have done. No shame and no blame.
After giving yourself time to very clearly see and note the areas of tension in your days, then you can step back and note trends from throughout your week.
And with a clear picture, comes clear solutions.
I hope you find this helpful. I really, truly love unpacking these dynamics in parenting. If you are looking to have a fresh start in your parenting, I would love to talk about how we can work together!
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xo,
Krista Haller LPC, PMH-C
I have been a licensed professional counselor for over a decade. Although my work has ranged from children to adults, my heart is working with mothers.
For three years I was a home visitor for Early Head Start, providing early intervention services to all kinds of families with varied needs and stressors.
In that time I was lucky enough to be trained in various attachment approaches, including Circle of Security, Trust Based Relational Intervention, and the Gottman Institute’s Bringing Home Baby curriculum. In 2020, I completed my Perinatal Mental Health Certification.
